The Nerve
I had to kick my hair dresser to the crib this evening. He pissed me off to the nth degree.
First, know that he has been doing my hair every 2 weeks for 2 years and 3 months. I go to him faithfully. I'm loyal.
Also note, that he got out of line with me about a year ago and I almost stopped coming. We made up and I put it behind me. See, my hairdresser is a closeted homosexual and occasionally acts like he's on his period. He tells all these tall tales about his sexual conquests and constantly hits on women, but his mannerisms, his attitude and the occasional, "Girl" that he sprinkles in the conversations say otherwise. In a nutshell he's moody like a woman. Which is fine by me so long as he directs that shit to someone else. I mean, I work within his personality as I'm sure he works within mine, but tonight was it!
So, last week when I was leaving I told him that I wanted a Perm Rod set. Ladies, you know the smaller rollers. I wanted my hair to look like a curly afro and as it drops the hairstyle changes...you feel me? Cool. Tuesday, I even called him to make sure he was going to be ready to do it because I know he's lazy. He wants to do a roller-set or blow you out and curl it. He doesn't like to do complicated or time consuming hairdo's. I've never tripped off that because this is the healthiest my hair has ever been. Plus, he doesn't charge me for deep conditioners or trims, so I let it go and continued to go to him and get the same ish.
Today, I walk in the shop and issue the customary greetings all around. My line-sister calls me on the phone and we're discussing our up coming trip to Miami to celebrate me and 2 of my other line sister's birthdays. So, he's asking me which rollers I want. *Red Flag* If I tell you I want a rods what rollers do you think I want? See, a beautician who is comfortable or knows what look I'm trying to achieve would already know what size rollers I want. So, I'm on the phone and trying to get him to make a suggestion. So, he starts getting indignant talking about I better hurry up and choose because he doesn't feel like doing it anyway AND he's only charging me $55 for something that normally costs $85.
STOP THE MUTHAFUCKING PRESS!!!
Do, I look I just started getting my hair done TODAY! Sucka is not my middle name. Who in their right mind is going to pay $85 for a freaking rod set?! Not I said the Cat! Run that ish on somebody simple!
So, I let that roll of back and make a choice in rollers and continue talking on the phone while he's getting himself together. So, he calls me over to the shampoo bowl and I'm still on the phone and I hold up the one minute finger to signal that I'm getting off the phone. He gets indignant again. He starts talking about I need to hurry up because he can start on his other client whose appointment is at 5:30 and mine is 6:30 and he doesn't feel like doing it anyway. Mind you, he's loud as hell and at this point he has told me he doesn't want to do it about 4 times, so I started getting pissed. I told him I don't care less whose appointment is when...it's 6:15, she just walked in and she'll have to wait. AND, if you don't want to do it then don't! After I make my statement I lean back. He starts washing my hair and I ask him who is he trying to show out in front of. See, he's that type of person...extra when he has an audience. So, I tell him that I think he was very rude and disrespectful, especially since I come in damn near every week. He corrects me and tell me I come in every 2 weeks..clearly forgetting that he saw me 7 days ago. So, I concede and say so what I'm still a regular and he was being very unprofessional. He tells me I don't have to come every 2 weeks, 3 weeks or 4. I told his ass very calmly, "I'll keep that in mind".
At this point he knows that I'm pissed. I stopped talking and anyone that knows me knows that I'm a motor mouth and love to argue unless something is really wrong or I'm really mad. So for me to clam up means I'm about to blow. After he washes my hair we go back to the chair and he's starting to get his stuff together to rod my hair. I tell his ass to not even worry about it...give me the regular...blow me out, curl it tight and wrap it. I swear this is the best he has ever done my hair. He paid extra attention to everything. Every time I opened my mouth to someone else in the shop he chimed in trying to piggy back on my statement or agree with me. I ignored his ass. The receptionist walks up and ask me why I didn't rod it. See, she was there last week when he agreed to rod it...everyone was. They all knew that I wanted to put less stress on my hair and roller set it for a few weeks. I told her ass loud and clear, "Because I don't want my hair to be shitty. I'll go somewhere else to make sure the job is done right." She turns to him and says, "See, why you got to be so mean." HA!
After he did my hair and the owner did my eyebrows, I grabbed my book I just loaned him today, put it in my purse, paid at the front and told the receptionist to take me off the books for the rest of the year because I wouldn't be back. Yes, I make my appointments by the year. I'm a hairdresser's dream...a consistent, paying client.
The problem was that he doesn't feel comfortable doing it for whatever reason and he tried to divert me from getting it done. He knows my temper and attitude would stop me from letting him do it. What he wasn't expecting is that I'd take my name off the books because we've had spats before and it was like, "same time, same place". You know what I mean? But, not this time. He crossed the line on too many levels.
1. I tell you what to do to my hair. You don't tell me what you FEEL like doing.
2. You don't respect me or my business if you think you can tell me I don't have to come.
I'd be a fool to walk back in there.
You would think I was at some hood shop with the treatment I got today. Nope. It's a diverse salon with diverse stylist and clientele. It's a upscale shop. They use the best products and my hair is healthy as hell, but he's not the best, nor is he the only person that can achieve that look. Not to mention, he's limited in his hairstyling abilities. I had to damn near beg for streaks. I literally asked for streaks for 6 months and he kept giving me excuses or reasons why. Then the shampoo girl told me that he can't do color that well. AHA! It made sense. He pulled the same shit tonight.
I immediately called my girl for the number to her stylist. Her hair is healthy, full, shiny and always done. I'll have to start paying for trims and deep conditioners, but that's the price I'll pay to have a stylist that respects me as a client and more importantly as a person.
We'll meet again because I'll be back in 4 weeks to get my eyebrows arched. She keeps my arch thick and it's always perfect. At which time I'll make sure my wig is tight.
I had to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
Smooches :^)
First, know that he has been doing my hair every 2 weeks for 2 years and 3 months. I go to him faithfully. I'm loyal.
Also note, that he got out of line with me about a year ago and I almost stopped coming. We made up and I put it behind me. See, my hairdresser is a closeted homosexual and occasionally acts like he's on his period. He tells all these tall tales about his sexual conquests and constantly hits on women, but his mannerisms, his attitude and the occasional, "Girl" that he sprinkles in the conversations say otherwise. In a nutshell he's moody like a woman. Which is fine by me so long as he directs that shit to someone else. I mean, I work within his personality as I'm sure he works within mine, but tonight was it!
So, last week when I was leaving I told him that I wanted a Perm Rod set. Ladies, you know the smaller rollers. I wanted my hair to look like a curly afro and as it drops the hairstyle changes...you feel me? Cool. Tuesday, I even called him to make sure he was going to be ready to do it because I know he's lazy. He wants to do a roller-set or blow you out and curl it. He doesn't like to do complicated or time consuming hairdo's. I've never tripped off that because this is the healthiest my hair has ever been. Plus, he doesn't charge me for deep conditioners or trims, so I let it go and continued to go to him and get the same ish.
Today, I walk in the shop and issue the customary greetings all around. My line-sister calls me on the phone and we're discussing our up coming trip to Miami to celebrate me and 2 of my other line sister's birthdays. So, he's asking me which rollers I want. *Red Flag* If I tell you I want a rods what rollers do you think I want? See, a beautician who is comfortable or knows what look I'm trying to achieve would already know what size rollers I want. So, I'm on the phone and trying to get him to make a suggestion. So, he starts getting indignant talking about I better hurry up and choose because he doesn't feel like doing it anyway AND he's only charging me $55 for something that normally costs $85.
STOP THE MUTHAFUCKING PRESS!!!
Do, I look I just started getting my hair done TODAY! Sucka is not my middle name. Who in their right mind is going to pay $85 for a freaking rod set?! Not I said the Cat! Run that ish on somebody simple!
So, I let that roll of back and make a choice in rollers and continue talking on the phone while he's getting himself together. So, he calls me over to the shampoo bowl and I'm still on the phone and I hold up the one minute finger to signal that I'm getting off the phone. He gets indignant again. He starts talking about I need to hurry up because he can start on his other client whose appointment is at 5:30 and mine is 6:30 and he doesn't feel like doing it anyway. Mind you, he's loud as hell and at this point he has told me he doesn't want to do it about 4 times, so I started getting pissed. I told him I don't care less whose appointment is when...it's 6:15, she just walked in and she'll have to wait. AND, if you don't want to do it then don't! After I make my statement I lean back. He starts washing my hair and I ask him who is he trying to show out in front of. See, he's that type of person...extra when he has an audience. So, I tell him that I think he was very rude and disrespectful, especially since I come in damn near every week. He corrects me and tell me I come in every 2 weeks..clearly forgetting that he saw me 7 days ago. So, I concede and say so what I'm still a regular and he was being very unprofessional. He tells me I don't have to come every 2 weeks, 3 weeks or 4. I told his ass very calmly, "I'll keep that in mind".
At this point he knows that I'm pissed. I stopped talking and anyone that knows me knows that I'm a motor mouth and love to argue unless something is really wrong or I'm really mad. So for me to clam up means I'm about to blow. After he washes my hair we go back to the chair and he's starting to get his stuff together to rod my hair. I tell his ass to not even worry about it...give me the regular...blow me out, curl it tight and wrap it. I swear this is the best he has ever done my hair. He paid extra attention to everything. Every time I opened my mouth to someone else in the shop he chimed in trying to piggy back on my statement or agree with me. I ignored his ass. The receptionist walks up and ask me why I didn't rod it. See, she was there last week when he agreed to rod it...everyone was. They all knew that I wanted to put less stress on my hair and roller set it for a few weeks. I told her ass loud and clear, "Because I don't want my hair to be shitty. I'll go somewhere else to make sure the job is done right." She turns to him and says, "See, why you got to be so mean." HA!
After he did my hair and the owner did my eyebrows, I grabbed my book I just loaned him today, put it in my purse, paid at the front and told the receptionist to take me off the books for the rest of the year because I wouldn't be back. Yes, I make my appointments by the year. I'm a hairdresser's dream...a consistent, paying client.
The problem was that he doesn't feel comfortable doing it for whatever reason and he tried to divert me from getting it done. He knows my temper and attitude would stop me from letting him do it. What he wasn't expecting is that I'd take my name off the books because we've had spats before and it was like, "same time, same place". You know what I mean? But, not this time. He crossed the line on too many levels.
1. I tell you what to do to my hair. You don't tell me what you FEEL like doing.
2. You don't respect me or my business if you think you can tell me I don't have to come.
I'd be a fool to walk back in there.
You would think I was at some hood shop with the treatment I got today. Nope. It's a diverse salon with diverse stylist and clientele. It's a upscale shop. They use the best products and my hair is healthy as hell, but he's not the best, nor is he the only person that can achieve that look. Not to mention, he's limited in his hairstyling abilities. I had to damn near beg for streaks. I literally asked for streaks for 6 months and he kept giving me excuses or reasons why. Then the shampoo girl told me that he can't do color that well. AHA! It made sense. He pulled the same shit tonight.
I immediately called my girl for the number to her stylist. Her hair is healthy, full, shiny and always done. I'll have to start paying for trims and deep conditioners, but that's the price I'll pay to have a stylist that respects me as a client and more importantly as a person.
We'll meet again because I'll be back in 4 weeks to get my eyebrows arched. She keeps my arch thick and it's always perfect. At which time I'll make sure my wig is tight.
I had to get this off my chest. Thanks for listening.
Smooches :^)
posted by Ming Houser, Realtor at
9:05 PM
10 Comments:
As someone that works in a service industry....you know I am big on not paying or frequenting any establishment where they don't value you as a customer. Kudos to you for taking your business elsewhere.
Whew Lawd! It so brings me to the issue of why alot of our business goes to the Orientals for certain beauty issues. We need to treat each other as if we value our dollars. He doesn't know who you know that would have been a client. Tsk Tsk Tsk
I am on the hunt for a new hair dresser now myself because mine just disappeared. One day I came up to the salon and it was GONE! I can't believe it. I tried calling and a couple of other things and then I just got mad because I wasn't valued as a regular. I went every two weeks as well like clockwork AND I brought my daughter who's hair is to her ass to her and I brought other customers to her for weaves etc. And I helped with her flyers etc. etc. so to just disappear and not send a note or a call to her regulars was just funky to me.
Man your hair dresser sounds like a trip. Seriously that is crazy. Good for you for taking your name off the books. That is some ish that he thinks he can just talk to you any which way.
wow! he had some problems... i dont blame you for not wanting to go back....
See thats why sorry to say I dont let the black girls/guys touch my hair..except for down south.....To me they can't style hair in Boston. They can only do roller sets/blow drys/braids and thats not getting your hair done to me. And they are pricey ass hell cuz u can go to New York and have the Dominicans do that shit for like $20.....
CONGRATS!!! I don't believe in that shyt..which is why I don't have a stylist now LOL
the one chick here that actually was doing my hair was good BUT my appt is at 5. why is it 8 and you haven't touched me yet??? I let that slide for about 2 months since I had just gotten it cut.. as soon as it grew out enough I cut her off.. and never went back!!! now I fiddle with it myself.. but I may have struck gold with this other girl..
can't wait to read about when u go back to get your eyebrows done LOL and u should have that spiral set when u go back LOL
Dang!! It's so hard to find someone who you trust to do your hair and when they mess up you feel like you gotta interview all over again. I'm glad I live with my hairdresser LOL but before I use to drive a good 45 min to MD to have my cuz do my hair every two weeks. I bet he'll think twice next time about how he treats a loyal customer. I wonder what he said when he found out you weren't coming back
LMAO @ Missy re: "Dominicans" - but it's the truth!
@ Dynasty: Well your hair did look great yesterday!! I love it when you have it blown out with bangs. But, good luck finding a new stylist!
damn girl, that was an experience. I cut my hair dresser off, when i sat in the shop for 2 hours and my hair was not touched. I didn't even let her do it that day, even though i knew i was going out of the town the next day. I just went to another salon and have never been back.
Now I'm not a every 2 weeker....but my money is just a green. I demand respect for my time. She was pissing me off, leaving me under the dryer for over an hour when it only takes 30-45 min tops to dry my hair. Hell i hardly have hair to begin with.
I've been with the same person for many years now. Early on, we had to work out our issues - I had a standing 7am, every Saturday. Twice in a row she showed up at 7:30am. A quick chat and a reminder that she'd miss my steady, weekly money got us back on track. Good luck with your new stylist.
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